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The Guys You'll Meet On Earth But Not In Heaven: The Hunter Males
Over the last several thousand years agriculture and various business occupations have for the most part taken away the need for males to be Hunters. Despite this, many men retain the qualities of the Hunter, and remain aggressive and uncomfortable with emotions.
For more than a million years human beings were divided into Hunter-Gatherer gender roles. The stronger, testosterone primed males became the Hunters. Each morning they left to hunt for food and came back by sunset to protect their families. While testosterone helped men to be aggressive, their lack of a uterus enabled them to hunt daily with no need to stay back and bear children. Women became the Gatherers, staying at home to gather food and their babies.
Obviously, these initial differences in gender roles were a direct result of biological differences between the sexes. But, these first gender roles caused even more differences between males and females as the centuries passed. Men became more aggressive and more risk-taking as they noted that women chose to be with the best hunters. And, since men spent their days mostly alone, hunting for prey, they never became quite comfortable with verbal communications and letting their feelings out. The women Gatherers back at home communicated and worked with other Gatherers to solve problems, and became good at it.
Over the last several thousand years agriculture and various business occupations have for the most part taken away the need for males to be Hunters. Despite this, many men retain the qualities of the Hunter, and remain aggressive and uncomfortable with emotions. In fact, modern men have often been described as comfortable with only 3 emotions:
3. sexual urges
Thankfully, over the last few hundred years education, good parenting and role modeling have helped some men to become—"Sensitive New Age Guys." These men can better communicate, talk about their feelings, limit their risk-taking and even ask for help when they need some.
Unfortunately, a good percentage of men have retained their Hunter personas well into the 21st century. They still have limited capacity to share feelings, and continue to be aggressive enough to appear as if they consider themselves to be –"Bullet Proof."
Because of this, men far outnumber women in hazardous behaviors like smoking, drinking, dangerous jobs, drunk driving and violent crimes. And, on average, men live 7 fewer years than women despite equal access to medical care.
Recently, thanks to modern media and the internet we have been deluged with stories of Hunter males risking their health, their marriages and their careers by giving into their sexual impulses. Decades ago, a media privacy code protected men like Presidents Kennedy and Eisenhower from being exposed. But, now, with this privacy code a relic of the past, we are seeing a parade of men from all walks of life implicated by the media to be a legion of Wounded Hunter males. Most well known are:
Bill Clinton, Gary Hart, Hugh Grant, Mark Sanford, Elliot Spitzer, John Ensign, Tiger Woods, Brett Favre, Charlie Sheen, Jude Law, Chris Lee, David Duchovny, John Edwards, Dominique Strauss Kahn, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Michael Jordan, James Cameron, Donald Trump, Prince Charles, Rudi Guliani and, and---yes, Anthony Weiner.
According to what we read, all have apparently cheated in some manner, shape or form on their wives. The cheating runs the gamut from taking mistresses to fathering children to having sex with call girls or work associates or chambermaids-- to texting and sexting.
In a time when women are no longer just Gatherers but often at least the academic and economic equals of men, these Male hunters continue to be overly aggressive, captives of their sexual urges and unable to share their feelings.
So, instead of communicating to their spouses ---"Could we try this tonight?"
--Or, "I would like it if you would do this to me."
--Or, "Can I do this to you?"
--Or, "Can we get some marital therapy?"
--Or, "I would like a divorce"
Yes, instead of all of the above----Silence Reigns.
And the Hunter males continue to hunt----silently, dangerously and destructively!